Breaking the Stigma For Human Sexuality - For Better Human Connection

"Without intimacy, people feel lonely, isolated and shamed."

When you reach out for a piece of chocolate because you are craving something sweet, do you feel guilty about it? When you go to the gym and start exercising to build up a healthy and strong body for yourself, do you tell yourself “this is wrong”? If your answers are “no” to both of them, then why should you feel ashamed when you have sexual desires and intimacy needs when these are such fundamental necessities to human lives?

The source of sexual shame is very complex, but the result of such shame is universal: people who carry sexual shame often feel humiliated and guilty about their desires and bodies. Furthermore, the shame of oftentimes compounded by a combination of self-disgust and a terror of having their sexual thoughts being revealed and judged by others.

“An epidemic of sexual shame is crippling people taught to be ‘pure.’”

This is not only a women’s issue; this is an issue that greatly affects men as well. When women and men experience sexual shame, it leads to more issues like the inability to experience intimacy with one another. Here at Cuddly Buddy Collection, one way we want to help break the stigma for human sexuality is by sharing with you educational information on sex and why it is important to talk about it.


What A Sex Worker Can Teach Us About Human Connection | Nicole Emma | TEDxSaltLakeCity

"In a society that values strong, stoic alpha males, where can a man find space to be vulnerable? Nicole Emma, a sex worker with 18 years of experience, gives a unique perspective on men's need for connection.

About the speaker: Nicole Emma is a relationship and intimacy coach, and sex worker." What can the people at the edges of society teach us about ourselves? About Love? Cultivated through a life of connecting with people at the edges of our community, Nicole shares a message of unconditional love and acceptance.

She has an insatiable curiosity about people, how we think and how we work, especially those outside the boundaries of cultural norms and programming. It’s this desire to truly SEE people that led Nicole to a vibrant career in the sex industry. Drawing from 18 years in sex work, Nicole observes noteworthy patterns of human behavior, especially those of the most vulnerable demographics, while providing a space for them to experience authentic connection without judgment. Bringing to the public dialog a call to shift societal expectations and address our own biases, Nicole speaks out about how we unintentionally create a fearful and angry society, and how we can shift back into curiosity, balance, and love.


Better Intimacy For Her, Better Sex For Him & Vice Versa | Amy Color | TEDxStanleyPark

Sex is not intimacy. How can you be a great lover and have an intimate connection? How do you increase relationship and sexual satisfaction? What is an orgasm and what does chocolate have to do with it? Can you save a sexless marriage? What’s the difference between porn, masturbation and reality? How do you manage resentment, stress, kids, affairs, trauma and sexual challenges? Can you connect physically without just talking about it?

Amy Color’s answers educate and inspire. Intimacy Therapy Coach, international trainer, clinical supervisor, Amy Color has defined the science and sound of intimacy. She’s created practical solutions based on decades of research with proven results. She shares her recipes for physical and emotional intimacy that foster deep secure connection in a respectful and entertaining way. Amy wants everyone to feel sexually confident.


Women's Sexuality Isn't 'Complicated' | Sarah Barmak | TEDxToronto

On October 27, 2016, some of Toronto’s greatest thinkers and change-makers joined together onstage at TEDxToronto to deliver powerful talks and performances that embodied our theme, Symbols + Signals.

Born and raised in Thornhill, Ontario, Sarah is a freelance journalist and author. Her first book, Closer: Notes From the Orgasmic Frontier of Female Sexuality, was published in July 2016, with a focus on exploring the cutting-edge science and cultural trends behind women’s sexuality. Sarah’s message aims to reveal how women today are reshaping their sexuality in new and innovative ways – and how female sexuality is being redefined on its own terms. Sarah’s work has appeared in publications such as Maclean’s, The Globe and Mail, The Walrus, The Toronto Star, This Magazine and Canadian Business.


Reclaiming Female Sexual Desire | Pam Costa | TEDxPaloAlto

After a decade-and-a-half at Apple and Facebook, Pam left her career in high tech to found Down To There to share her real-life stories of challenges and successes around sexuality in her marriage. Through her writing, speaking and coaching, she hopes to inspire individuals and couples to find ways to renew and deepen desire and intimacy in their own relationships. Pam is also passionate about raising awareness within the medical and mental health communities about the positive impact of peer support on female sexual health, recently presenting her research on this topic at the 2018 International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health conference.



Talking dirty: De-stigmatising conversations on sex | Kate Dawson | TEDxGalway

Kate Dawson is a sex researcher and educator, and advocates to us the benefits of sexual health promotion and why we should talk more openly about it. Using examples from her research she shows us how we can approach the topic honestly with our children, communicate things better with our partners, and feel a bit more at ease with ourselves.